Ok its eleven o clock. Hub gone for an early night about an
hour ago, Teen was really late back from work he was due in at ten to nine came
in at half nine. No text to let me know he was late, so I had started to prepare
round two of cooking tonight. All set out on the table at nine, was his soup,
hot bread, cup of tea, hot dessert of pear cinnamon and peak and nut crumble.
Needless to say it all was spoiled so needed reheating by the time he got in. I
am exhausted. Just had to let the dogs out, then go into the dining room to
take from the table Hub and Teens dinner dishes. I must say it is unlike teen
to leave his dishes on the table. But tonight he did as did Hub. So I filled the
dishwasher, finding things all over the place. Washing down the worktops with
care in case I sweep something off. Wiped the table and started the washer that
has been my day as this morning I came to a dish washer full of crockery that
was clean I put that away, then found all teen dishes from brunch in the sink.
I asked him why he didn’t put them in the dish washer. Answer it was full of
clean dishes. So why not empty the dishwasher and refill it? Didn’t have time.
So I have just asked him to set his alarm for five minutes earlier as why
should I do all the work? After cleaning the house today and doing what I have
to online and so on, I then went to the dog run and cleaned that. It took ages
as I took buckets and brush with me and let me tell you not just doggy doodles
in there but a teen sock…. Little Fella has a passion for them. Teen is going
through socks like Elton John. It is reported that he wears a pair of socks
once and bins them. Not quite like that here, Teen wears a pair of socks then
LF devours them. Yack with a capital Ya.
I bought Hub a couple of years ago a lovely garden seat just
like the one he loved when we went to America. It wasn’t cheap either. I have
asked all autumn and winter to have it put in the garage so not to spoil. I found
it today smashed on the ground just like I found it a few weeks ago. I got it
up then, today I just left it. I had put lights on the frame last year; I doubt
they will work now.
I’m so tired and fed up of just doing all the time for
others and the thing is, it’s expected. I don’t go out to work. This is my job.
A career. Hmm. Well let me tell you it’s unpaid and there is no sign of
promotion. Smile.
Gosh LF has been hyper today. If he were a child I would
swear someone had given him fruit shoots. Those hyper drinks. Talking of which,
it’s budget day in the UK today. They are going to tax sugar. As our children
are obese and why are they like that? Because most of them are fed process food
which have load of sugar and fattening ingredients in also the kids today don’t
blooming move. With the exception of some good parents who make sure their
children are kept healthy, but most are happy to know their kids are in their
bedroom playing on those computer games rather than getting them to play out or
join some kind of afterschool activity.
I remember when my Teen was a small boy, from the age of
just about two; I took him to the local church group where the children played.
I made friends with a lovely lady called Tracey who had two children similar
age to my baby. She told me about another group and kindly offered to meet with
me to show me the way. I was as very afraid as then I didn’t use a white cane.
But my little lamb told me when there were steps and once I was in the vicinity
I stayed sitting. As I got friendly with the other Mums, they used to inform me
if my little one needed rescuing or if he was looking bored. Bored was mainly
what he was as Teen has never been a baby. He was born an old soul. Kids would
get toys out of boxes, teen would put them back. Telling the children to be
tidy. I was the one at home who used to get the toys out to try to get him to
play, but he was always so serious bless him and so sensible.
There were no Brum brums or toot toots from my little one
that was Mummy’s job. Haha. He used to look at me I’m sure as if to say, Mum,
really, you are too old for that kind of talk.
Then I took him horse riding well, to lessons. I didn’t have
old Dobbin down the bottom of my garden. I was told he was a natural. At three
he was playing dead man. This is where they get the children to sit on the
horse and go under the horses belly keeping a hold of the horse obviously. And
not when the horse was moving. Haha. Mind you, having said that good job I didn’t
know at the time or I would have been passed myself with worry.
Then he went to dance classes, cub’s scouts swimming tennis
football. Oh the list goes on. Everything he disliked. Everything I asked him
first if he would like to go he said no. But I made him. If I hadn’t I know he would
be a totally different young man now.
He is very confident can walk into a job with ease and have
no nerves. He was the same at school. When we moved here four years ago, he was
just fifteen at the awkward age but he walked the route with Hub and it was a
good twenty minute walk each way, as we didn’t know the bus route then. And he
was then ready to go to school. He came home late only by ten minutes. When he
came in. I breathed. He was safe. When you can’t see, you can’t just go looking
for your child. OK he was fifteen but in a new area with lots of roads. I asked
him where he had been. He answered talking to Matt. Then announced he was going
for a game of tennis with his pals. Pals he didn’t even know that morning. Same
when he was eight, we moved house new area new school. Again, making friends.
No bother. No trouble mixing or nerves going to the school. I was so pleased
and proud.
He went to Japan with Hub when he was fifteen for his work
experience. He said he had the best week of his life. He stood in front of one
hundred business men and gave a talk showing slide shows without any effort or
trouble. So yeah, I can’t see but my Son has had the best upbringing I could
give him with sight or not. I made him do things that were outside of his
comfort zone. It was so stressful. So tiring but I did it for him and it paid
off. We can all leave our kids in their bedroom playing screen games, it’s
easier for us. We can all let them away with saying yes to their drink request.
But if we start off how we mean to carry on, then that is the best thing for
our children. Putting tax on sugar drinks isn’t going to make our kids slimmer
or fitter.
Now for the past three years I have had no control over my
Son. He says no, he means no and what can I do? So whilst you young parents
have the choice, stick to it or life will be worse as your child gets older. Though
I have no say now in how my Son is, he still has a good job he pays his way and
his manners are impeccable. He can be so loving just around the house he is
hippy lazy.
The thing with the tax and drinks, it will mean a bottle of
pop will be about 18p more. And? Parents will still buy. And the fact is, to
avoid those taxes in time the companies will make an alternative to sugar. And
what will that be? Some awful manufactured sugar that may cause all kinds of
trouble in the future, we just won’t know until it’s too late. Oh, I know it’s
just come to me. Shop cakes. Not the nice ones but the less expensive ones they
are so sweet I can’t stand them. As it’s not a sugary sweet I can’t explain
what I mean but the taste is so false. I don’t buy them anymore. So our drinks will
become like that I’m sure and our kids will remain fat. I know last time
something was done to suppose to get our kids slimmer was to make chocolate
bars smaller and crisp bags. Really, you should see the size they are now? They
are a joke. All that happened was people started to eat two of everything. Just
what our health conscious Government wanted. As the goods stayed the same price
for half the size. So we ended up paying so much more. Call me cynical.
So what is the answer?
Get the children to walk to school. Really, I would love a survey done for
parents who are sighted and parents who can’t see. I bet the fitter kids are
the ones with the blind parents. We can’t get in our cars and take them places.
We have to go for a walk to the bus stop or walk the full distance. If our kids
are out, we can’t just pick them up, they have to make their own way back via
walking or we collect them by bus. They walk to school. And back then they walk
to their afterschool activities. That is the answer; get your kids to move.
Petrol staying the same I think, I say think, as it’s so difficult
to follow. I know beer whisky and cider are staying the same. Wine though is to
go up. Disabled benefits are to be cut as we have to find the money for the
immigrants from somewhere.
So today in the UK has been budget day. Next biggy for us is
will we stay in Europe? And for our American cousins, who will be your next
President?
Pull up a chair take
a taste come joine us life is so endlessly delicious.
Ruth Reichl
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