Alienated
Reading something today someone I regard as a fabulous
mother has written. About estrangement between her and her child. She said
something that really was interesting. In her experience and this lady is a
Mother of ten babies, she feels like kids no matter how old, whether they are
children in years or adult children who have had an indulging lifestyle, kids
who have had the best parents are the ones who normally take their wings and
keep flying.
She got me thinking. Yes. The few parents I know who have
lost contact with their children for whatever reason, have been great parents.
Those people I know who are close to their parents haven’t had the best
upbringing. So, there is some truth in what she said.
There is no rule book how to bring our kids up as no one
knows everything or every circumstance. It’s just arrogant to think you are a
professional when it comes to child psychology. Listening to parents and then
thinking about how you want to do it is the best advice. But even then, no one
is the same. Everyone has different lifestyles and values, morals and desires. So,
your right may be another parent or child’s wrong.
So, what do you do when your child decides they want nothing
to do with you ever again? Well how much do you love them? How much do you want
them? How good are those kids and how do they effect your life? many questions.
If your answers are
To the moon and back. More than anything else in the world.
Not so good may be but you love them unconditionally anyway. They effect my
life in a more positive way being with them than without.
Then don’t give up on them. Hopefully one day they will
realise they only have one Mum or one Dad and they will come back and let you
love them for all the years they have been away. Let them realise what they
lost for so many days, weeks months or years. And I hope you have so much love
to share for a long life afterwards. But don’t make it too late if you are a
rebellion child or stubborn parent. Meet in the middle and I hope your pain of
your loss will soon have some kind of resolvent.
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