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Thursday, 26 April 2018

GRIEF BY FIONA CUMMINGS


What a week so far. In four days, my Husband has been to four totally different areas and tomorrow his fifth.

 

He and I are so close we are experiencing something we are not too keen on. We are dreaming the same dreams but sadly they are very dark dreams. The last dream we had like this really shook us both up when we realised that we had dreamt the same dream exactly same people who were strangers but the same strangers. They were Police a man and a woman.  Well last nights nightmares were worse than before. Really black and Hub and I spoke of them this morning. We are shocked we are having the same dreams I have never heard of couples doing this. I have never experienced this before neither has Hub and I know it could be because we are so close but it’s not good. Especially when it proves to come true like todays. There has been two passing’s one in our family and my dear friend from school, her Husband who was no age at all. Gosh I feel so very helpless why are there no words to say to people in such situations to make them feel better? I’m left with some quotes that I hope will help someone out there as we sip on our coffee and feel normal inside, there are people in agony, suffering out there. And today those of us who feel OK, should be so grateful we are not one of those people who are devastated right now. so, no matter of your day if you are going through pain, let’s hope it isn’t as bad as it could be. And if it is, these quotes are for you!

“Those we love may pass, but true love never dies””

Fiona Cummings

 

Grief is torture. It never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage so narrow you have to move on to let others get through too. Along that long corridor of life. Everyone has to go through it and when you come to the end, you have to say goodbye to those you love, when you get to the end, you are in a huge world that is perfect but sad because you see the tears from your loved ones. If only you could tell them/us that it’s OK, and you will be reunited all over again, but those words are not allowed to be said. So, you wait. Just wait until it’s their time, but they can only meet with you when it is their time, and that time isn’t chosen by them but their maker. If only we knew this we wouldn’t be quite so sad.

  

Their wings were ready, but our hearts weren’t prepared. But how does one prepare oneself for the pain to come, or is already here? No human has that answer, this tells me we are not meant to know. I hope and believe that particular answer will be given to us in the next land. But why we have to wait? It’s cruel, isn’t it? But there must be a reason. There has to be.

 

I shall leave you with a quote from Buddha

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not in the branch, but but in her own wings

 (My own translation of this is. Trust in yourself. Don’t rely on others too much. Only you can get yourself to the next stage. No one else will lift you up to fly. Have your faith. It’s so important.)

 

 

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