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Friday, 7 December 2018

A CHRISTMAS WISH AND A HAIRY KISS BY FIONA CUMMINGS


A friend of mine on FaceBook was saying the other day she is inviting people to her house on Christmas day who have no family or nowhere to go to. Isn’t that so very selfless? Every year I say the same thing. I feel so sad for those of you who are alone at this time of year. I can say Bloggets, it’s one day of the year. But it’s not, is it? It’s the lead up. In the work place everyone talking about where they are going before Christmas and on the big day itself. People with families to visit friends coming around. Talk of food preparation and so on. If you are on your own, how heart-breaking will that be to hear? I can only hope that one day you too will have someone special in your life. I know of people in their seventies who have met late in life. It’s never too late, but you know what? I also know of a lady who has never been married and she has no one. She tells me she is fine and she enjoys having the time to do what she wants to do on the day. She eats what she wants but doesn’t have a Christmas dinner, instead, she gives the Salvation Army the money she would spend on a dinner. Just kindness. Now whether it’s all bravado and really, she gets up on the 25th, and sinks into her stomach feeling devastated she has no one to share her day with, I don’t know. I hope not, I hope she has been able to teach her mind how to be positive at that time of year. It’s a day, a date that is talked so much about. At least now days there is more chance to work on that day.

 

As a child my Christmas’s were so dreamy. Beautiful coloured lights. Multi coloured baubles. The brightest most magical colours and pictures that looked like Victorian paintings depicted on paper that wrapped around gifts of plenty. Father Christmas’s with the whitest beards and bright shiny red coats. Always smiling, red cheeks used to pop up above his beard. Dishes around the house filled with sweet wrappers holding delicious chocolates and toffee’s!  Brazil nuts in shells with chrome nut crackers again all polished, gleaming against the natural look of the nuts.

 

Our childhood fridge was overflown with foods things that you really could only get at Christmas time. Dishes of little oranges, dark velvet red French apples and pomegranates forming pyramids in my Mums best crystal dish.

 

My big brother would help me each year to put together my toys and games. Everything had the most amazing colours. The smells of home the dreams a child should always experience.

 

And in those days, there were foods that you could only get at Christmas time. Whereas now days you can get anything any time. It was more special when we had to wait, don’t you think? Now we take things for granted. Just as you may take your families and friends for granted. Appreciate them as there are people who have no one. But remember too, sometimes people have a house full of people and still feel so very alone. Seriously Bloggets, you can be in a room there will be laughter. Old Grand pops is wearing his silly paper hat Aunt morg is insisting you dance with her and Granny Anny is chasing you for that annual hairy lip kiss… Yep that tash from the past. Small children play with their latest toys and then there is you. So, remember that life isn’t always what you imagine it to be.

 

   For some people this year will be the first without their loved ones. They won’t not just see them for Christmas, but they will never see them again. For others that person who has been in their lives forever won’t be this year even though they are still alive and well. For some people this may really be a time they are dreading, for others we shall enjoy every second we have with those we love. We are the lucky ones. Again, as I say every year, your neighbour who you may just wave to as you pass them, take note, who will visit them this year? Why not pop to their house with a plate of home-made biscuits or a cake bought at the shop? A card a smile your kindness will mean more to them than a diamond ring will mean to a lot of recipients this year.

 

 

If you are going to your shop why not as your neighbour or work colleague if there is anything they need? Or, even better, do they need a lift anywhere? One hour of kind thoughts, you will be the best gift possible and no money can buy that!

 

 

3 comments:

Christine O said...

Beautiful thoughts. Yes it’s a time fior giving and sharing your time.
Oranges? French apples? Is that like ‘toffee apples’? Pomegranates? We have a lovely salad that my daughter (also Fi) makes, with pomegranate thru it. A new thing to me. Thanks Fi.

Fiona Cummings said...

Thank you so much French apples are thick skinned apples they are very dark red. Thank you for reading take care and have a lovely weekend X

Fiona Cummings said...

My mum called them That, but they are probably Called something else xx