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Sunday, 25 March 2018

THE WEDDING OF TIME BY FIONA CUMMMINGS


 This weekend our clocks sprung forward, for most people with my eye disease this means lighter nights. I remember those days when I dreaded dusk nights as dusk meant I couldn’t see anything other than shadows and lights. Now days, I would be grateful to see shadows and lights. But more grateful to see a sunset or the moon or, baby lambs playing in a field or even to see my face in the mirror would be for me a wonderful start and ending to my day. Start because I would have life to wake up to, and ending, to my day then I could sleep and hopefully have better dreams than what I have now where the paintbrush has run out of colour and the edge of the paper has disappeared.

 

There are a lot of things going on in life for us right now, but for my Husband his Dad is coming up 80 there will be celebrations but we won’t be there. This upsets my Husband but we are powerless. There are two or three women going there who my Husband doesn’t want to see two of which really have no right to be there but so be it. Once again, my Husband is an outsider. He’s use to it and though of course it upsets him, he will like many times before move on!  

 

I’m not sure of my Husbands future with the job he is doing. I think his job may be under threat. As will a lot of positions where he works. As always, he is worrying more about his colleagues. It’s keeping him awake by nights and by day, he’s stressed.

 

He’s a fair boss and his team are his babies. I, just hope all works out for them all. We were told we would learn last Friday, then Monday gone but now I’m hoping for tomorrow.

 

I have been searching through the jobsites trying to find work for him, my Son and myself. So, far, no luck. I have really noticed a difference, a change in job hunting now days. You have to be specialised to stand a chance. And that has changed over the past year. At one time, there would be so many jobs my Husband and Son could do. My Husband has been a manager for years climbed a high ladder and my Son has been a supervisor in two totally different environments. And still, out of 16 pages I looked at just today, not one job either of my boys could do for whatever reason!

 

I, mean, if they wanted to be a carer, yes there are loads of jobs. And no experience is not always needed certainly no qualifications. So, My Husband who has three degrees and a Masters in Business and my Son who has very good qualifications/A levels from school and college, would have less chance at getting a job at their level than what Shamrock for example would have and she has no A, levels or college experience. So, next time your children are saying they don’t want to go to University, hmm. What to say to that?

 

Personally, if my child is bookish and strong, then I would encourage them to go to Uni. If my child is intelligent but hates study, like our Son, then I would suggest them to study in a specialised subject like electrician or engineering, for example. Plumbing or anything that you see when you are looking through the job pages. If your child isn’t an A, student, then hairdressing make up or painting and decorating. I see there are two choices for our kids. One to be happy earning pennies or two, study either at University or be taught a profession. But to just go it alone with no apprenticeship or only a first from University, then it’s going to be tough.

 

There are so many jobs which require University degrees so, they will cherry pick only those who get the best results so you can go to University for years, get into so much debt and get decent marks, but not the highest, so to get a job where by your education warrants a good position, you won’t have a chance so will end up doing a job that is far inferior to your capabilities.

 

I’m so trying to talk our Son into going to college again to study something else. Even night classes trouble is, the job he’s doing he can be there till really late. University won’t suit him he’s so similar to me but his brain is healthy and requires knowledge and feeding.

 

So, back to the pages of job hunting, gone the days when you can climb the ladder in the work place unless you get a start somewhere and the boss of that place has the authority to promote you without going through red tape! I still see our Boy being a teacher, he would be so good at it but now he’s saying he wants to work with animals. He’s spent so much time of late with various animals and just loves them. Hence, I’m sure why he has gone back to being a vegetarian.

 

It’s funny I was asked the question the other day. “Fiona, why are you a vegetarian?” I, answered because I love animals to which she replied so do I, but I love meat… I just can’t get into that mind. If you love animals, how can you eat them? To me I can’t separate loving animals then enjoying the flesh of one.

 

My Son went to his girlfriend’s Mothers friend’s wedding yesterday. Gosh, what a day. It went on for 15 hours. It to me sounded more like a circus but our Son enjoyed it as much as he could. The food sounded rather unusual. It was the wedding of the daughter of a celebrity so you can imagine how much money it cost.

 

Boy Wonder said the brides dress was stunning white with sequence and her vail went as long as her dress. As for the food, sausage rolls, pork pies, a joint of meat, for the vegetarians, out of a hundred people only our Son was a vegetarian. So, he had a full vegetable strudel and peas came with the servings all in the middle of the tables in dishes for people to serve. Really odd choice of food. And he didn’t say anything about dessert.

 

 So, did my Son dance the night away? No, he tried to fall asleep hahaha. But before he did that, there was a fantastic magician and BW told me of some of the tricks as he amazed BW, obviously this was before he fell asleep. The guy asked a lady for her wedding ring she was then told to put it in a mans pocket. Then she was told to go to another man go into his pocket and pull out a tea bag. She did this. He asked her to open the teabag and inside of it was her ring…

 

There was a booth for you to get your photograph taken and a lady who did glamorous caricatures. There was an orchestra, during the day and by night time a live band with two female singers.

 

As my Son lay on a sofa, even with a blanket on top of him, hahaha, where he got that from, I didn’t dare ask. One of the celebrities came over to him to have a chat… Talking about how he was this, and is, now that and so on. My Son wasn’t overwhelmed at all and said to me he just wished he’d gone away to leave him to sleep…

 

He left this house at half eleven on the Saturday morning, and got back to Shamrocks at 2 the next morning. They had booked a mini bus for 1 am. But it was a drive and a half from home. So, yes, a long day. The most exciting thing BW loved was a cute tiny baby who kept grabbing his fingers. The baby was in a pram and BW was cooing over it. I think he is getting broody!

 

Sham wore a pretty white dress with peach flowers and BW wore his dark blue suit with a pink shirt and pink and blue tie.

All in all, it sounds a lovely day the venue was very interesting too, but after the experience of two weddings personally I prefer a wedding where it’s personal to the bride and groom, rather than wanting it to be an occasion where by people are walking around as if at a fairground and the bride and groom just happen to be there in the background.

 

I, hope the couple will be happy forever. Time will tell and as I started this blog with time, I shall end it with the time now, it’s 1 am. So, it’s goodnight from me and goodnight from them… x

 

 

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